Book: How to Raise an Adult

In her book How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research, on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers, and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, fears that lead to overhelping, Lythcott-Haims offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success.

Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as of twentysomethings-and of special value to parents of teens, this book is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence.

Ms. Lythcott-Haims majored in American Studies at Stanford University (1989) and studied law at Harvard (1994). She practiced law in the Bay Area in the 1990s before returning to Stanford to serve in various roles including Dean of Freshmen, Associate Vice Provost for Undergraduate Education, and Dean of Freshmen and Undergraduate Advising.

Read The New York Times’ review of  How to Raise an Adult. The How to Raise an Adult website offers additional thoughts from Lythcott-Haims, a book discussion guide, purchasing options, and more (www.howtoraiseanadult.com).

Care Coordinators can arrange a free 30 minute Care Consultation so you can explore options with an expert.
We invite you to call or email our Care Coordinators at 650.688.3625 or careteam@chconline.org to set up an initial Parent Consultation appointment.