13 Reasons Why: Important Update
Dear Friends of CHC:
Just as Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why was beginning to air in early April, we sent out a note of concern.
One month later, we are learning that this is the most talked about show on social media and that it is more concerning than was originally thought. Two IOP teen therapists from CHC’s Adolescent Mental Health Services Department, Dr. Anna Parnes and Jennifer Leydecker advise, “If your kids have watched it or plan to watch it, it’s critical that you watch the program too so you are aware of the content.” For those of you who haven’t heard, the show is a fictional account of a teenage girl, Hannah, who dies by suicide and leaves behind audio tapes outlining the 13 people she blames for her death. We strongly suggest parent caution, monitoring and dialogue about the program and its topics of suicide, survivor guilt, sexual assault and bullying and shaming.
Many of our friends and community partners have shared outstanding resources and suggestions about this show over the past few days. The call to action that everyone advises is, if your teen has watched or is watching the show, watch it with them and talk about it. By now, even if your child or teen hasn’t watched 13 Reasons Why, they have very likely heard about it from their peers.
- Find out if your child is watching the show.
- If so, take time to watch the show yourself and with your teen.
- Start a conversation with them about it.
We want teens to know there are other solutions to anxiety, depression and bullying that do not involve suicide or self harm. The producers and directors of the program are trying to raise awareness of teen mental health issues, but CHC, Stanford, parents, teachers, behavioral healthcare professionals and national suicide prevention organizations are concerned about how the show portrays sensitive topics and how it is impacting young viewers, especially vulnerable youth.
If you or someone you know or love is experiencing suicidal thoughts, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1 800 273 8255 or contact Crisis Text Line by texting BAY to 741741.
Below you’ll find a review of the program from The JED Foundation, a helpful discussion guide from SAVE.org, a discussion of trigger warnings from the show and selected resources from Stanford.
A Point of View About 13 Reasons Why (from JED)
SAVE.org Discussion Guide (developed with Netflix)
A Discussion of Trigger Warnings (Teen Vogue)
Select Mental Health Resources from Stanford
Please share this information widely. We value community collaboration and look forward to continuing to work together for the well being of our youth.